Dealing with Heartache

Have you ever had your heart broken?

You know that excruciating pain where it feels like you can literally feel your heart sinking?

Those moments where it feels like your world is falling apart?

Yeah, I’ve been there before and it SUCKS. So you’re not alone or weird it’s totally normal.

Well first of all I would encourage you to explore how you feel. Sometimes we try to put on a façade that everything is okay and suppress our true emotions. This lie (saying that you’re fine) that we tell ourselves often ends up coming back when we least expect it. Its as if little seeds (lies) eventually grow up to be fruit in our hearts (faulty mindsets). For example, if you’re left with extremely low self esteem after a relationship and you never truthfully address it or surrender it to God, you’ll see your low self image coming through in different parts of your life when you least expect it. Or if it ended really badly (cheating, lies etc) you might see yourself starting to put all men or women in the same category.

This is honestly my life story. I’ve seen how my past relationships or interactions with the opposite sex affected my attitudes and mindsets. This truly isn’t a good way to live because you rob yourself of joy and you charge people with things that they have not even committed. It’s a lose lose situation.

I would then encourage you to get a journal. Personally besides ministering through dance journaling is my favorite way of communicating with my father in heaven. And when you journal don’t be afraid to be honest and vulnerable because guess what? God already knows how you feel. I would also suggest seeking Godly council. Maybe speak to a wiser adult in church or even your parents. And most importantly open your bible; their is truly an answer in that book for everything!

Also, remember that God is all knowing, fully in control and that he is sovereign. What sometimes may seem like the end or like the worst thing to ever happen could actually be a blessing. It could really be God protecting you from harm, sin and from even deeper heartache if the relationship continued. The end could actually be the start of something beautiful. As the song Beautiful things by Gungor says ,

“You make beautiful things
You make beautiful things out of the dust
You make beautiful things
You make beautiful things out of us”

 

And something beautiful is not necessarily a relationship with a new person..

It could actually be a new deeper relationship with God that was birthed out of your time of anguish and of clinging to God so hard in your distress.

It could be the beginning of a new ministry where you encourage other young girls to walk in healing and to chase after God.

Or It could be the beginning of just a better you.

I just write all this to say don’t put God in a box. He is truly the God of miracles, mercy and of unconditional love. Trust him with your heart, your heartache, your low self-esteem, your questions, and your doubts, your everything.

When we lay things at his feet and trust him we will see him work things out and bless you with even more than you were expecting.

And as valentines day is approaching, don’t sit there bitter over what didn’t work out but give God thanks instead of what he possibly saved your from. And if you’re single and if God’s will for you to marry you’ll time will come and they will be worth the wait and you’ll be glad you took time to heal.

Supporting Scriptures:

“You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing. You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy.” Psalms 30:11

“ He brought me up also out of an horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings” Psalms 40:2

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD.” Isaiah 55:8

Love,

Giselle A. Parris