Baes , #GOALS and the Relationship Idol…

We are part of a society that is obsessed with the idea of relationships…
We can’t go through our social media feeds without seeing a post about #relationshipgoals , someone talking about their Bae ❤ , or someone writing about how they are waiting for “The One” (whatever that means). Even in our conversations with our friends we usually end up talking about what we want in our significant others. For us girls how we want our guy to be saved (of course) , certain height , smart but humble about it , outgoing but not too much , and needs to work out. Or for the guys how they want their future girl to be a Godly woman (of course) , wear her natural hair , eyebrows on fleek, always look presentable , cook , clean and whole bunch of other stuff.
Aaah the pressure ….

Well , there’s nothing wrong with desiring a mate. In fact , God said in Genesis 2:18 , “… It is not good to be alone “ . But , before you take the last sentence and go off running to find your #Bae , Boaz or if you’re a guy your Proverbs 31 woman just relax and keep reading.

Relationships are great . We all want that person to go get Chipotle with , go on cute picnic dates with , and someone who gets us flowers… Or is that just me ? LOL. But , the issue with relationships is when we make an Idol out of it. An Idol is anything that can take the place of God. The word clearly states in Exodus 20:3 , “ You shall have no other gods before me”. The problem with relationships starts when it becomes all that we think about and all that we talk about. The problem begins when it becomes a distraction in our walk with the Lord… A problem arises when we start to question God and the way he made us and become insecure, after the person we liked rejected us. Ignoring the fact that God took his time while making us. He gave us our looks , our sense of humor and personality , it was no mistake. God reminds us of this in Psalms 139:13 ,”You made all the delicate inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb”.

Another problem arises when we start to act like our main purpose in life was to come here on earth and be in a relationship . And the biggest problem  is when we desire a significant other more than we desire a relationship with our Lord and savior. Well I think you get it now ..****Disclaimer !! By the way Not writing this because I’m perfect . I’m writing this because I’ve struggled with this and God had to show me that I had gotten distracted in our walk. So as I’m writing this I’m actually speaking to myself too. ******

God cares more about our heart and our salvation than our relationship status. Hence , why there is not much relationship talk in the bible and a whole lot of God and Jesus. Our purpose for being in this world is to have a relationship with God , to give him glory (Isaiah 43:7)and to make disciples (Mathew 28:19) .Everything else will be added to you and he also instructs us not to worry . “ Seek the kingdom of God and live righteously , and he will give you everything you need” Mathew 6:33. Not saying now to go and serve God just because he will go and give you your mate , he sees our hearts and our intentions (Jeremiah 17:10) -.- .  Serve God because he loves you and sent his son to die on the cross for you (John 3:16) everything else is secondary. As I said earlier there’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with desiring a person to be with so PLEASE don’t take that as the message of this post. The main point is to NOT act like that is our main purpose in life or like being single is a death sentence or like being in a relationship will be a cure to all your problems because it won’t.

While I was spending time with God a couple days ago he reminded me of 1 Thessalonians , “Make it your goal to live a quiet life , minding your own business and working with your hands , just as we instructed you before”. I really felt God telling me to stay occupied with things of the Lord and remain focused instead of trying to figure out certain things in my life that he already has under control. Another scripture that I love in regards to purpose and being a young adult is 1 timothy 4:12 , “ Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young , but set an example for the believers in speech , in conduct , in love , in faith and in purity”.

Well just want to encourage you to stay busy with things of the Lord. Not only for your own benefit , but people are always watching so be an example. You are the only bible that some people read. And also have FUN we are young !!!!!!!!!! Get some friends, go to the movies , cook dinner, go on bike rides whatever people do these days. (Being a Christian doesn’t mean you have to be bored)
Just be intentional about how we spend our time .  We don’t want to go before  God one day and have him say that we were distracted and focused on the wrong things and forgot our purpose. Remember  we never know when he’s coming back.

God loves you like crazy.
-Giselle Parris